Life gets intense somedays and everyone has ways to handle it. Small stress and chaos is one thing but sometimes we are hit with a Semi load of stress all at once and we need to deal with it and still function as a human even when we want to say screw it I am building a fort and no one can come in. I am guilty of shutting down when the life junk semi pulls up. I don't mean to hurt anyone it is just how I handle things. Right or wrong when things hit the fan I get quiet. I pull back to look at the situation and come up with ways to fix it. Sometimes I have to hide and let a few tears out because the hurt is to much. Please don't look down on those of us who retreat when life gets crazy, we are not gone forever we are just plotting our attack on things so we can come out on top. You can't force someone out of their quiet if they aren't ready to come out, that is the equivalent of petting a bear and wondering why they took your arm off. Just a bad idea to do that. Let them have their space and know they aren't going anywhere they are just lost in their thoughts and need to figure it out. When they try and talk it is not because they want you to fix it for them it is because they need to say things out loud. Understand if they talk to you when they are being quiet you have earned their trust do not break their trust, that can do more damage than a lot of other things can do. Sometimes they will get lost in music and other times they will just need silence. Just let them know you are there when they shut down and when they are ready they will reach out. So for those of us who shut down when life gets to be to much know that it is ok to pull back and don't feel bad for doing it. Just make sure you don't check out of life completely because other people need you as well.
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