Keeping things simple is an amazing thing. I giggle when I hear some else say that someone is out of their league. If you say that you probably haven't taken the time to get to know the person very well. Sometimes all the woman is looking for is someone who will sit on a tail gate drink a few beers, chat and watch for shooting stars. Yes guys sometimes it is that simple. Not every woman needs the expensive dinners and long vacations. If you want to stay in her mind and heart forever give her a piggy back ride, go for a walk, wait to get physical, get to know the real her, call her baby, play with her hair and just be sincere with your words. Its not as hard as some people think it is to get to her heart. I personally love love love to feel protected by someone, I love the hugs that make me feel tiny and the look that makes me feel that I am the only one around. Simple things matter most because they are free, from the heart and can be done again and again, how many times can you go out to expensive dinners and make it special?
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I was sitting here today thinking about how much dating amongst other things is really like chasing a dog, if you run after it they keep running more times than not. However if you sit back show interest and be available they tend to show up happily on their own. I am learning that if they want to they will and if they don't they won't, its not much of a shocker I am the same way. I think as adults we want things to happen when we want them to and in some cases force the issue or rush it and we forget time is a gift. I am choosing to have faith that when the time is right it will happen but I will also enjoy every moment that something puts a smile on my face as well. Life is way to short to be mad or sad, I will learn from my mistakes and I will serve as a great warning to others if I can't be a used as a good example hahaha!!
I giggle when people say I am intimidating, I am not scary I just won't take crap from anyone. I have been put in many situations that have backed me in a corner and forced me to be strong. I don't want to be this way all the time but I have to much at stake to relax. I would love to be with someone who for once says they have my back and mean it. I would love to be able to be weak for a second but I can't. They see someone who works a lot and doesn't have a lot of free time, they see someone who is driven to reach the goals that have been set. But what they don't see is the fact I would love to be the driving support system for someone who has their own goals and someone who will support mine as well. I don't cry often because I hate to feel weak because I know there is no one to take over if I melt down when thing get crazy. Just once I would love for someone to put their arms around me and make me have no doubt that they are in it for the long haul not just until someone better comes along.
Open yourself up they said, you need to they said, love will find you they said…. Ummm yeah about that does anyone know what dating entails now days when you tell people things? I am quickly learning if you work a lot then you are unavailable when they want you which makes you undesirable, however if you don't work then you are broke and hence undesirable. But my fav of it all is the odd idea that single moms are good for sex and not much else.. News flash we smell your game a mile away and if you get some its because they player just got played. I am tired tired tired of the hey Tracy you have to much energy or you work to much or you have to many kids or you have to many animals, blah blah blah is all I hear now. Seriously I am the most ridiculously faithful person when I am really into someone yet I get crabbed at when I don't say yes to everyone…. Um yeah so I am picky so what call me a bitch I really don't care at this point. Money doesn't impress me nor do dick pics or lord help me videos, no I will not have a 3some and no you can jerk it with me standing right there, that is just……. wrong just wrong… I am a huge fan of someone who has drive and determination, someone who will tell me to chill when I get fired up and someone to just be there. I don't need someone in my face 24/7 all I need is a little effort thats all its pretty easy. So men of the world I am sorry I am not sorry that my moral compass does not point to my vagina turns out to get some you actually have to be a good person not just a douche with a stiffy. You want me show me old school not this hey look at my wiener stuff NO ONE WANTS TO SEE IT!
Of all the things I have learned on my journey so far the biggest lesson that I have held close to my heart is to pick your battles and remember it could be worse. I have become a lot more calm when things happen and its a wonderful feeling I must say. I am also to the point that if someone doesn't want me it is ok, life goes on and I know that when it is supposed to happen it will for all the right reasons. I love who I have become because it is the real me not who I think I have to be. Love me or hate me ( not sure why anyone would hate me cause I am awesome ) I am always me. When things happen yes it sucks but I know it could always be worse because I have lived through worse. I am ready for my life to go from great to beyond amazing because I deserve it. I work hard and I have a lot of love to give to someone who wants it. The magic moment is out there waiting for me all I can do is wish for it to show up soon!!!!
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