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If anyone says being a single mom is easy slap them for me. No one ever said being a mom is easy let alone a single mom but its a job we wanted the day we found out the newest name we get to be called is mom. Its not a job I would ever ever give up or regret one day because its the most amazing thing I have ever done in my life. There are a few things you give up as a single mom though, things like: me time, fashion that is current, food off your plate, being able to go to the bathroom alone, whats a paycheck? All the things that cause a struggle are far out weighed by the good that comes from it, I would list all the good but seriously who has that much time! I get a kick out of it when people who are married judge me - hello I was married it didn't workout ( religious differences he thought he was GOD I disagreed). The thing that cracks me up the most when people try to talk down to me or get after me about not really dating much is that they just don't get it, I would rather give my kids a little something extra once in a while than go out for a night. Unlike many other people I am ok with self sacrifice for my kids, they have a father already so its not like I need to be on the prowl for a new baby daddy, seriously some people are on the hunt and maybe I just don't have the time or energy for the games and BS that seems to come along with it. I believe that when the time is right the perfect person for me will come into my life and stay. Until that day I will make sure my kids are happy and my life keeps going in the direction I have always dreamed it would, single or not life is an amazing adventure that I take on with school girl giddiness!!!
For those who think I should be remarried by now I have to say yes my kids are my reason for getting up in the morning they are not a substitute for love because there is no man in the world who can love me like I love them or they love me. Kids can never replace romantic love however the best romantic love is totally worth the wait - I learned that much from my first marriage!!! I can wait for the love Life is an amazing adventure but you have to embrace it to understand it. Don't be the person who is so busy hating people and things that you forget to love yourself and others. Be grateful for something and awesome as waking up in the morning because some people don't have that privilege any more. Try to not be so wrapped up with your life and things going on that you forget about other people around you. Try to poke your head out of the sand once in a while and have some fun, try something new and talk to someone who you wouldn't normally talk to. Don't be jealous of someone because you might not know what they have bent through to get to where they are today and have what they have. Be positive and live a good, honest life and good things will happen to you I promise! In some cases you need to really look to find the good but trust me its there somewhere even if it is just a learning experience its still something!! Love life and it will love you back, hate life and well…… Thanksgiving is coming and the concept of just one day to be thankful makes me giggle. I choose to wake up everyday being thankful for everything good, bad and otherwise. I am truly blessed with an amazing family, wonderful children and out standing friends. Yes I am single but I am not desperate quite the opposite actually I am certain that when the time is right the right person for me will be there. I am choosing to let what ever happen just happen I won't fight it anymore and I look at each day as a gift and a chance for something amazing to happen!!!!! Perhaps that makes me a little to much to handle but thats ok because if its to much than thats not the right person for me. I actually think that some people may have thought I was to much but now discover that I am actually not to much but just enough, sadly for most people I don't want to look back only forward so I feel that if someone wants to be in my life they will make effort and show me they want to be there.
I know many times I find myself asking how do you know? How do you know when you are in love, how do you know when its real? So many times we think something is real only to find out it was fake. As frustrating as that is the normal answer is even more frustrating is the normal answer we hear which is you just know. To bad there is not a system for figuring out if its real for now or forever. But that begs the next question if you knew it was only for now would you act differently or would you remain the same and learn what you need to learn? I know that learning is how we grow and messing up is how we learn what not to do or what we don't want but come on really sometimes I would just like to know ahead of time. Of course I did have a psychic reading at one time and they warned me that someone I felt very strong feelings for would surprise everyone and just show up married one day and sure enough he did, it still hurt and I didn't change how I felt or acted but to know ahead of time helped a little to take the sting off. Love is a crazy beast that not all of us are meant to tame or maybe its the other way around that it is not supposed to tame us! Either way you look at it love is love and its great when you have it and it hurts when you lose it but hey thats life! I do encourage people to get a reading with a great psychic if you have questions you need help with but remember to not base your life off what they say just take it as a warning not gospel because free will can change everything in a heart beat in some cases.
I have seen a lot of things in my life but when things become clear and you can see them in a whole new light its a very cool thing. Everyone needs love to feel loved and its not always the romantic kind they need - sometimes they just need to know they are appreciated by someone when things are crazy. Don't hesitate to elevate yourself to a higher person and let people know you appreciate them being in your life. With forgiveness and appreciation you can really make the day seem brighter and the air smell just a little sweeter. Its ok to go through the crap and its ok to not forget what it taught you. I know through the hell I have gone through I have become the person I have always wanted to be. I choose to take the lessons I have learned the hard way and make it a positive thing. I have learned how to not give up even when things seem hopeless, I know how to keep on dreaming and focus on the good because the bad stuff will always be there but you can choose to ignore it. When someone lashes out at you for no reason its probably because they have a battle with their inner demons and they just need to know that someone cares still even when they don't care about themselves. Show love to people even when they don't deserve it and love with come back to you 7 fold! Wake up appreciating the fact you did wake up and your day will be off to a wonderful start. I don't let people know enough that I really truly appreciate them being in my life so if you need to know that I feel that way this is my message to you! Thank you so much for reading this - my wish for you is to tell someone
Its been so long but it really seems like yesterday when you last held me in your arms and everything in the world was right for that moment. Keeping the memories of you looking at me and saying you thought I was beautiful make the bad nights seem not so bad. I can still see your smile, that smile and it makes me smile. I feel like a dork because I know its never going to happen again and yet somehow the memory of you still makes me smile. How can you shake something that made you feel so alive and showed you that you in fact can feel the way you have always wanted to feel. I never got to thank him for that, and I wonder if he knows how it made me feel. I don't judge others by him I just long for the day I can feel someones touch and feel all those things again- so protected, beautiful, loved and young all at the same time with not a care in the world who saw any of it. I know that the timing was wrong perhaps in another lifetime but for now I am ready for the person who fate meant for me to grow old with. I am not in a huge rush to run down the isle or move in with anyone I am willing to wait for the right time for everything to happen trusting in the journey that I am on to take me to where I need to be.
First impressions are amazing - they are something that sticks with you forever! Everything from business to love you only get 1 first impression so you need to make it count. People are always watching wither they want to admit it or not. The best thing we can do is remember to smile and laugh because someone may be falling in love with your smile. You only get 1 shot at this life so why would you want to be unhappy, I am not saying if you are going through a rough time to cut and run what I am saying is find the good in everything somehow. Don't look at things like a failure look at them more like a learning experience for what not to do in the future. Bad relationships help us grow as people and bad jobs push us to figure out what we truly want to do with our lives. People come and go from our lives all the time, find the value in the time they are there and you may look at life a bit differently. You don't have to be a door mat for people so standing up for yourself is a good thing. And never forget all my still searching for love peeps when you are ready for the first kiss it can always be your last first kiss so treat it accordingly, take your time because
Its funny that sometimes I think hey I should get out there and date, open myself up to someone and see where it takes me. Then it occurs to me, people make promises and don't keep them. They text, call and see you until they have your attention then its not fun anymore because you become a real person. I am SO over it all, the games, lies and BS! I want to find someone who will get to know me and then figure out that I am a genuine person who isn't demanding or needy all I want is to feel loved and protected. It makes me sad that there are so many people out there men and women alike who just say whatever someone needs to hear until they get what they want or find someone else. Dating is not easy in the first place and to add lies and BS is just stress that I don't have time for. I want someone who actually wants me, someone who sees other beautiful women but thinks they pale in comparison to me. I want to find someone who falls in love with the real me and my soul then everything else becomes a bonus! Until then I need to say yeah…. maybe not so much I don't need to waste the gas or time and energy on someone who isn't really that into me.
I wonder from time to time if its possible to be to damaged to be loved again, and then I look at people who have been in car accidents or worse and hear stories about them finding love. We are all here on this crazy adventure called life and it takes us in many twist and turns all the time. I love life and it loves me back finally and that when the magic happens! If you believe that something wonderful is going to happen even the smallest of things become magical. Sunshine seems warmer, smiles are friendlier, life just seems a little better all the way around. You need to distance yourself from the crap and go for the things that make you smile more! We are all loved in our own way some ways are just a little more subtle than others. Everything happens for a reason and sometimes we need to remind ourselves of that. In some cases its our lesson and in others we are part of the lesson! Some lessons hurt some feel amazing but we learn from both and grow as people if we choose to look at it as a lesson and not punishment for something. I heard a song the other day that made me think of someone and it brought a tear to my eye because the song was called Nothing Left to Lose - life is to short to not be happy so
I am curious if there are a lot of men out there who think that because of the whole women's lib movement that you don't have to do anything and that the women should be the one pursuing you now. I am going to let you in on a secret guys, even if you are shy we want you to make some effort. No we are not expecting perfection but a little acknowledgement of our ability to breathe would be great! Please don't wait and wait for the woman to make the move because honestly guys we get really tired of the oh hey look she wants me because we text you or called you. If we text or called you its to talk to you!!! Women are not as complicated as men think we just want you to show some damn effort to keep our attention. Yeah we won't wait forever for you to decide that this is the moment when you will finally get off your ass and do something about it by that time we may be long gone or worse for you NOT INTERESTED In being ignored any more. I would be willing to bet that not many people look at it like that. Yes there are some women like me who have no interest in being with someone who will make us feel alone! We are all busy I get that but seriously how hard is it to text once in a while especially when you hold your freaking phone like its a damn security blanket all the time. WTF do you think we really don't see it, are you hoping that we are that incredibly stupid that we won't figure out that you are giving becky from down the block attention while you keep us on hold?? NEWS FLASH romeo we figure it out pretty quick and we are over it and your silly games faster than you can wash up from a little fun time with your latest flavor. Check back when you figure out that women like myself are out there and we are loyal to those who are loyal to us until then have fun with Bambi boys. And just so we are clear I am not talking about anything going on in my life just tired of guys saying that women are hard to understand and "freak out" all the time. Some are crazy this I will admit but if you are playing games expect the games to not end well, say what you mean and mean what you say. Don't tell someone you love them if you are saying that to a hundred other people too its just tacky and always remember the golden rule treat others how you want to be treated!!
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