I have made a major decision tonight. I will stop checking my phone for texts that aren't coming and stop holding out hope that maybe today is different. If someone wants to see you they will, if they want to talk to you they will and they won't make you guess how they feel. Stand up and be strong even when being weak is all you want to do. The person who cares about you will make sure you know they want you in their life even if they can't be there all the time. It's not always distance that separates people, work, kids, life itself can make someone unable to see you. It doesn't mean they don't care it just means they are busy. Sometimes its just timing that doesn't work, they can still be honest about how much they care so you don't have to wonder. The bravest thing someone can do is be open about their feelings, I wish everyday someone would be brave with me. Not everyone has the same effect on people that's when the magic happens when you can just think about someone and it makes your day a little better... XOXO Life bring on the magic of the good stuff I am SO ready, please don't let me be that girl forever. I am the exception not the rule!!!
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I was thinking to about a lot of things this weekend. I realized not only has no one made a real attempt to claim me as his but no one has even made an attempted to to even take a picture with me. I might do the radio show but damn what are they trying to hide? I don't broadcast my life on air if I am interested in someone I keep it private. I protect the ones I care about. I may do or say things on air to throw people off my trail to maintain my privacy. I just wish I would have someone at some time show true effort not just until they get what they want. I know what I bring to to the table and trust me I am not afraid to eat alone. My life hasn't been easy I have over come a lot of stuff most people don't have to go through. I don't need expensive dates I just need someone who won't walk away like the rest. If someone wants my attention now they have to show me they are not like everyone else.....
Here is the truth about independent women, we are trained to not trust as a result of a bad marriage or just bad relationships in the past. We have to be strong we have no choice, we guard our hearts with barbwire walls. We need someone strong enough and patient enough and in our lives to handle us when the walls come down and consistent enough to get them to come down at all. We can see if you are running game and we can run it better than you guys so don't get excited thinking you "got us" if it gets physical, we have needs to sorry guys. You will know you have us when we open up even a little, we will test the waters a bit before we actually open up to see if you can handle our truth. Once that happens we will need you to be strong enough to handle us at moments that no one else sees. We can't be tamed but the right person can run with us and we won't run away, if we back off we won't be for long and we won't stray. The best part of a independent woman is that we don't have the time or the patience to cheat and we know what it feels like to be hurt so we try to not hurt anyone. Show a little more effort to an independent woman surprise flowers, random messages, cute notes left for us, basic cute dates that remind us of life before we got this way will be the fastest way to her heart. Once you get the walls to come down do not stop doing that stuff or the walls will be back up immediately. It is not easy to love a woman like this but I promise it is worth the effort!
XOXO Life bring on the magic!!! Hey guys, I have heard time and time again how someone is trying to keep someone as a back up or in the wings. News flash you will never be happy if you need a side chick. Even if you don't have a first place girl don't treat your girl like a side chick. Most likely
It occurred to me the other day that love and vehicles share some similarities. I had a car it was a good car not my dream car but it was a good car. It got me from point A to point B most days without a headache. I would look at other cars and trucks when I was in my car wishing the others were mine. I wasn't satisfied, there was something missing from the picture. Then I found MY truck. I didn't even have to drive it to know it was MY truck. It is not the fanciest truck or the fastest but it is MY truck and I love it. I brought it home and now thinking of it makes me smile. Driving it gives me a thrill every time. I no longer look at other trucks and even wonder how they drive, why because I am happy and feel whole like I found the missing puzzle piece. Love is like finding the right truck or car if you will. Moral of the story once you find YOUR truck no other trucks compare, they might be nice or great but they are not YOUR truck.
XOXO life bring on the good stuff!!! 3 years ago today my life took a very unexpected change by a chance meeting with someone who will come to be one of my greatest teachers I have ever had. A simple message started it all, and what followed that will forever stay with me. You never imagine after so much pain that a simple hello can help heal so much. Something so basic that turned into lessons of the heart. I learned patience, and the art of a great conversation. I learned that sometimes letting go is all you can do even when it hurts so much because it is what you need to do for them. Truly loving someone means that you just want them to be truly happy even if that means it is not with you. The kicker is that I don't know if he ever felt that way about me and I may never know. All I do know is that I have proved to myself that the feeling they talk about in romance novels is real and the moments are mine forever. Yes 3 years ago I was not the same person and I am forever grateful for that day and all the moments that changed me. I don't know what my future holds but I know there is still a lot of magic out there for me to see! Magic in a moment, beauty in a touch XOXO life bring on the good stuff!!
To the man who taught me so much, I don't know if you will ever see this just know that my life is better because you were in it. I have been told that dating isn't that hard.... Go out they said it will be fun they said, you can't wait forever they said. And this is when things get interesting...
How to earn a throat punch by a woman with goals:. 1) Insult her then insist she meet you 2) Ask for nude pics before you meet us 3) Lie and say you are something you are not 4) Become desperate 5) Make us be the man in the situation 6) Flirting is fine, dick pics are not 7) No we will NOT have a 3sum 8) Jail is not a gated community 9) If we have a house and you don't you are not moving in after the first date 10) If you want to play a game play hide and go screw yourself... Strong women have no time for games and lies, go play with someone else. If you want an actual relationship with us it takes time not overnight success. Yes we have battle wounds from past relationships but we won't hold it against you we learn from it and try to not make the same mistake twice, weird I know! I get SO tired of these guys who think they are Gods gift to women and we need to bow to them and come running when they want us to, ummm NOPE not gonna happen. Perhaps I am set in my ways but I would rather be single than to deal with someone who makes me dream of ways to punch him. Seriously guys I promise its not that hard, think of how you would want your daughter treated in a relationship and act accordingly. Think about it..... Respect and honesty is not a bad thing, neither is taking your time and going slow. If you are looking for a quality woman treat her like it. |
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