I am sure I am not the only one in history who has ever felt that way but something is just missing. Its that nagging feeling in the back of your mind that something is still missing in your puzzle called life and you want to find it sooner than later and that thing can be anything from a job to a significant other in your life. Human touch is so important and it has been a long time since I have had that with anyone for longer than a minute besides my kids but we all know its different when its your children. Knowing what you want and not being able to have it is not fun but on the bright side once you know what you want it makes it easier to find it! We are all seeking something its just a matter of waiting for it to find us or getting up and actively seeking it!! I just hope that what I am missing finds it's way to me soon and doesn't leave me hanging forever! XOXOXO to anyone who needs it!
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Yes it is true there is a secret to getting to a woman's heart now I can not speak for the little girls of the world however if you want a woman there is an easy trick! I know what you are thinking and yes you are right the secret to getting to her heart is to not be a dick however its a little more complicated than that but still of so easy if you try it! Are you ready for it????? The secret to her heart is through her mind not between her legs and no guys as much as you want to think so telling her all the things you want to do to her will not win her heart. Let's be honest it may win her for a night or 2 if you can actually follow through with it but long term it won't win her over. Try talking to her, ask her about her day or just text her or message her Hi or Thinking about you ( and please do not accompany the thinking of you with a dick pic ) The conversation does not have to be deep or long just enough to show her you are interested as her as a thinking feeling human being not just a sex doll you want to toss around the room a few times before you pass out at night. Treat us like a whole person and you may just get to enjoy the benefits of it!!!! Food for thought but trust me the little messages or just not trying to get us naked the first time you see us goes a lot farther than sending a pic of how we make you feel at night!!!
**Dear No One tip of the day What if we took that chance to say something that you wanted to say or try something you wanted to try? How could your life change?? If you like someone why not say so the worst thing that can happen is they don't feel the same way BUT what if they do?!? Try for the new job eat some place new, take a different way home one day. Shake it up and dare to break out of the safety of your day to day life and do something that makes your pulse rise!!! I am issuing the Cool Chick Challenge starting today to anyone who wants to give it a try!!! If you have feelings for someone but you just can't say it send the info to me and I will say what ever you want me to ( as long as its not gross ) on air this Friday May 31st at 9:30pm CST!!! Tell someone you love them ask them to marry you or just say Hi to someone you lost touch with - the hardest part would be to send them a message either before that day or just send them a link to the archive and let them hear it!!!! Go on and take a chance I will help you take a leap of faith!!!!
I am curious if a lot of people allow our own personal fears to hold us back from things we want, relationships or career wise. I have said before that we need to tackle the past before we can make a playbook for our future but what if you are scared to take your place on the line and even more scared to tackle the things that need to be dealt with. Being afraid of being along can cause people to be with or go back to relationships that are not the best. Are we willing to settle to be secure instead of taking a leap of faith that there is more to life than what we have right now? I believe the answers we seek are found in the quiet of our own mind we just need to be willing to hear the answers what ever they may be. What if you admitted your fears?? Would you be free to deal with them then if you just admit it? What if your biggest fear is admitting you are human and you are afraid.. then what? Everyone is afraid of something - I am afraid of not finding the person who makes me feel alive and beautiful again, I had it for a moment but it was not mine to keep however I believe that if I had it once I can and will find it again I just need to be open to it when ever and where ever if ever it happens again. So Dear No One if you can give me the butterflies in the tummy high school feeling forever and you can appreciate life and all the beauty in the world come find me until then I will smell the lilacs during my walks and love every ray of sunshine that graces my skin and adore ever star that lights the evening sky.. I will be wishing on the last star on the handle of the little dipper I hope you are to so at least we can be wishing on the same star...... Hop
I went for a long walk today and it was amazing - walking and thinking and enjoying the world around me. How many of us are guilty of living day to day life and not really being alive? When is the last time you sat outside and inhaled the fragrances of the world? When is the last time you smelled a lilac and really looked at it and appreciated how beautiful it is? When is the last time you enjoyed the scent of a campfire or sat by a body of water and just admired the beauty? When is the last time you were surrounded by someone who made you feel alive again? I think to many of us become comfortable in our lives and we forget to love the little things and really enjoy being alive! Each breath we take is a gift and we need to remember it. How many times have we been in a relationship because it was comfortable? What if the person you spent your life with could feel like home and make you feel alive everyday at the same time?? Hmmmm wouldn't that be amazing! I challenge everyone to look at their lives and see if you are just living or if you are really alive - just be ready for the answer if you do because the answer may surprise you!
I have seen people go through life clinging to the wrong people and it is heart breaking. We all have that someone who we are so deeply connected to that you can feel it when they are not even near you. I want that!!! I want to know when someone is hurt or upset or just needs a hug. I would love to find the connection so deep you can be in a different state and still know what is going on. I have had a little bit of that in the past and it is cool!! Maybe it is just having someone know me that well that they just know or perhaps it is a soul mate thing - who cares what you call it I want that! We all want crazy silly love that stands the test of time. But what happens if you meet that person but their heart is not free? What if you meet the person you are so deeply connected to but they are still attached to someone else. Do you wait do you try to move on do you beg them to dig deep and feel that connection instead of denying it? I am such a huge fan of love and connections that no one else can see or explain, I see star crossed lovers in complicated situations and yet they still can't walk away for good. I see so much and it makes me wonder does anyone feel that way about me? Can someone feel it when I am sad or happy? Have I met the person who I am connected to and just not known it because they didn't say so for one reason or another? Dear No One whoever you are send me a sign even if it is a small one that you are out there but maybe you are not ready or maybe you are still connected to someone else. For that kind of love I would wait as long as it takes
Its amazing to me how everyone says they don't lie.. truth is everyone lies at some point if not to others that to ourself. The most damaging lies are the ones we tell ourselves and yet they still hurt others: I don't love that person anymore, I am not good enough, I am not worthy of it, I can't do it etc... I think if more people listen to the advice they give others they may find their own truth as well. I know I am getting deep today but dang it the shower was very insightful today lol. There is no way to control the lies other people tell however if we can dig deep and figure out our own private lies maybe people would be a lot more calm and happy. Lies hurt especially when we convince ourself they are true when its all fake. You can't convince yourself you are ready to move on if you are not open to others. I have learned SO much in the time I have been single I have watched the teacher become the student and vice versa. I am proud to say I have become the teacher for the most part. I have dealt with my demons and handled the lies I told myself. I have become strong inside and ready to handle a lot of things just by keeping my eyes open and my mouth shut. And I am also discovering that sometimes when people give advice its not always for the person they are talking to but sometimes they are saying what they need to hear out loud and just not hearing it themselves. I hope this all makes sense on some weird level!!!! Dear No One my promise to you is that I will not lie to you or hide things and I promise to try my be
I am starting to wonder if there is any good intention behind the cheesy and sometimes just out right stupid pick up lines that we hear. I hear so many are they actually supposed to be a compliment or just trying to open the door to get us into bed? Ugh why can no one just say hello anymore! You find one person who can have a great conversation and then you feel like you are not good enough... My hope is that someday I am enough for someone that I am fascinating and that there is no one else who can hold your attention. Maybe it will happen in this lifetime maybe not but no matter what I will keep hope alive even on the darkest days.... Best friend, partner in crime and lover all wrapped up into one - makes me wonder if its possible that this person exists AND would feel the same way about me...
Here is what I can not figure out - I am a good person who is honest and hard working. I am a great mom and an awesome friend. Why is it that I can see the biggest asshats with someone in their life and yet here I sit.... What the hell is that about??? I don't cheat the system or think I have to lie and pretend I am something I am not?? Thanks mom for the morals I guess lol. But seriously what the hell!!! I get it everything happens when it should blah blah blah maybe it's me maybe I am scary to people because I am very real what you see is what you get with me I don't have time for games or guessing. I hate being ignored so if you ignore me I will move on if you lie to me you might as well lose my number. Why is it so hard for people to lead good clean honest lives and do the right thing??? UGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!! I guess I would rather be single that deal with lies and guessing games I know the right person is out there I just hope he doesn't think I am like everyone else and sees the fact I am different. Dear No One just hang in there I am doing my think you are doing yor
I understand that no one wants to look desperate or seem needy but sometimes when you play the waiting game its a risk that the other person might not be there when you are ready. Please never assume that you are the best thing out there and the only game in town because the person who you are interested in might not be waiting for you or maybe they just got tired of waiting and someone else came along and took the place that you wanted because you took a risk and played the game. Funny thing about games is that you don't always win... Interesting thought for people who think they are God's gift to the world. Yes it's true there are some cases when people wait forever for someone but at that point ask yourself if you are truly living life or are you just existing??? I say take the risk and try to love - it won't always work out but at least you don't have to live with the thought of what if I would have tried what if I would have called or gone to see them. If you play the game at some point you will see the one you want dancing with someone else...do you really want that???
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