I think its funny when people think that the only way to impress someone is to spend a ton of money and do a bunch of lavish things with them. Its SO not true! Maybe its just me but I have been on some pretty lavish dates, restaurants being rented out, expensive dinners etc…. All the money in the world can't make someone like someone who they just can't see themselves with. Sure its fun at the time but that short term not long term. If you really want to impress a girl make her your princess, show her real effort not just your checkbook and see what happens. Piggy back rides, hanging out with her just listening to music, do cute stuff for her like sidewalk chalking her driveway to say hi ( only do that if you know she is interested otherwise its creepy ) pick her a flower, make her dinner or just talk to her! Nothing and I mean nothing beats the feeling when we walk into a room and we become the only person in the whole place, do that and see what happens. I want to be someones princess not just by name but by his actions. I know a lot of people say that women over think and in return I say I think that a lot of men think themselves out of something without trying, simple things matter most peeps trust me!
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Do they like me or not…. Hmmmmm I have pondered this question many times along with my friends to which I have come to the conclusion if you wonder the answer is he is just not that into you right now. Hey guys let me tell you a secret, the older women get the less likely to play your games we are if you like us say so, want to see us make it happen, miss us let us know! Ladies it's up to you to first and foremost respect yourself and know your value. Do not be afraid to be busy and live your life while he figures out what he wants but fellas if you take to long she may be gone! Finally if anyone complicates your life instead of compliments it straighten your crown and walk away like a boss!!!! Life is to short to not be happy, the right person is out there and the only thing you should regret is not living your life. Bad relationships teach us, good ones heal us and in the end its all part of our journey to finding our higher purpose in life with the people we are meant to be around!!! Dropping knowledge today woot woot!!! Ligh
I love helping people and giving advice on love or whatever I can. I have been chatting with one of my very good friends and she struggles with what to do or think about her boyfriend. I thought about it and really the advice I gave her applies to more than just love it applies to life in general. I told her if you don't really know what to do, do nothing and change your focus to something else. Changing your focus to something else allows our mind to quiet down and fate to take over. We need to remember that when things seem to get crazy maybe it is because it is happening to us for a reason so we grow or see a solution from a new perspective. Taking a step back and looking at the big picture is a lot easier when you can set emotion aside and you can look at things with fresh eyes. Take a bath, go for a walk, read a book, take a drive, take a nap, anything other than over analyzing a situation that may not have an answer right away. I am taking this advice myself when it comes to love. For a while now I thought maybe love just hates me then it occurred to me maybe I need to just stay busy with other things and let whatever is going to happen just happen. A great example would be me going to the store today with no makeup on, hair not done and of course a super hot guy was at the store and I am there looking like the creature from the black lagoon… lovely!!! Fate loves to mess with me all the time like that and to fate I say game on bring it because I know if someone wants me at some point he will see me with no makeup on if its at the beginning it can only go up from there ha! Peace, love and find your distraction while fate does its thing!
I find it sad that people laugh at people who are single, you must be closet gay or crazy to stay single right? Not even close, perhaps the person who is single chooses to be single because they value their heart and they know the right person is out there or maybe the right person is waiting for the right moment. I personally find it sad when people get into a relationship not because its right but because its easy or they just don't want to be single. I can wait and have fun and grow as a person while I wait for my moment. I had someone ask me a great question the other day and it haunts my mind right now… "Do you think we will ever be normal again?" Great question right! Its personally hard for me to become close to someone knowing I am giving them the ability to hurt me, I know not everyone will do what my ex did and I need to let it go. I also know it taught me a lot about what not to do in the future as well. Whoever is lucky enough to win my heart will be getting a diamond mine if they can see the diamonds hiding inside the coal.
Everyone wants people to be honest what would happen if I did a dating profile with the truth?? Lets see what happens please vote for the one I will use!!!
1) Single mom, business woman, animal lover and hopeless romantic seeks someone willing to throw chocolate at me if I growl. I am not perfect and I don't expect someone else to be either but I do look for someone who will try hard and has goals. You can live with your parents as long as you come up for sunlight sometime and you don't play Dungeons and Dragons all the time with action figures around your room ( thats just wrong ). He has to have a sense of humor and love the little things in life. I don't need expensive dates sitting on the back of a truck with a jar of peanut butter would be perfect with the right person. I love to talk and he should to. If I ever have to question physically defending you somewhere it won't work sorry. I love men bigger than me who make me feel safe. 2) Wanted: Someone with a sunny side up bad days will happen thats why there is beer attitude. Eyores need not apply (if you don't know what that means it won't work). Must have goals and motivation and be ok with me being a cheerleader because thats just how I am. He needs to love animals and kids and have amazing negotiation skills with a great sense of humor and patience. I will never chase anyone however if you have muscles and tattoos a girl might just power walk! Is it just me or do a lot of people just not say what they mean which means other people can have room for interpretation. When I say something I mean it there is no joke about it unless I am laughing and say I am kidding. If I say I do not want to talk its because I don't want to talk and when I get like that if I say it that is for your protection not mine. I have very very few people who can handle me when I get upset because its not often that I get really really fired up about things but when I do I will rip off your head and not feel bad about it at all. I am not the person to push just because you want to get your way if you push and I give in just remember the saying " Careful what you wish for because you might just get it." I never said I would be super nice if you "got your way" so heres a thought when someone says leave me alone if you don't know that person really well may I suggest leaving them alone until further notice. When I get upset I retreat into my bubble because I need to be calm and think, if someone is in my face it makes it worse like gas on a fire its a bad idea. So if I warn someone of something and they think they know so much better than I do please do not be shocked if it backfires in a huge way and I am on the other side laughing because I warned you what would happen. Like following a dump truck DO NOT PUSH ME - unless your hot and its up against a wall then by all means have at it
I was sitting on my porch tonight just taking in the beauty that surrounded my house and it occurred to me perhaps I was thinking about things all wrong. Perhaps instead of me wishing for love to find me perhaps I should wish for love to be ready for me. I wish and wish for someone to step up and want to be with me but then I thought perhaps I am devaluing myself by doing that. Yes will I feel lucky when I have someone in my life but he will be the lucky one too. I know my worth and the right person will see it as well. I know what I offer to someone and I know I am not for everyone and thats ok. I would rather wait for someone who is looking for what I can offer instead of me just wishing for someone to be my partner. I deserve someone who will be ready for all of what I am not just parts of me. I love love and at some point it will love me back, until then I will take in everything the universe has to offer me and adore my life because its pretty awesome despite it not being perfect yet.
I wonder from time to time what makes some people want to date and other time they don't want anything but expect the other person to not see anyone else ever. I also wonder what makes some people have someone on the side as a back up plan if you will. How the heck does anyone end up in a relationship and how does anyone fall in love anymore? I watch people all the time think they are falling for someone and then maybe someone else comes along maybe they are just needing more from someone than they an give or so they think. I laugh when people say that I am to busy or to this or to that. I am scary, intimidating blah blah blah blah….. Its all an excuse because if they took the time to get to know me they would know I would move heaven and earth for people I care about if they show me they care as well. I am loyal to those who are loyal to me. But yet I am told that I need to change or I have to many kids, the problem with that is the kids will stay in my life forever and I refuse to change to be less than I am now for anyone ever again. Sorry guys if you can't handle someone with goals and the determination to work her booty off to get them maybe you should go troll where the pill popping drunks are perhaps you would have better luck there. If you are looking for supportive, motivated women who are not afraid to work hard for not only herself and her family but you as well on the quest for goals being achieved perhaps giving those scary motivated women a chance might be a good idea…. Just a thought :)
We all have that person or people who can put a smile on our face just by thinking of them, and there will always be that person who when you see even just a picture of them makes your heart skip a beat. Even if we are not lucky enough to keep this in our lives they serve a purpose, to remind us that we can feel that way and anything is possible at the right time. Sadly the right time might not be forever but it is that moment and that moment is magical. I love when my mind wanders and I smile for no reason other than a memory. Nothing is guaranteed and I have learned to live in the moment and never expect anything to last forever. I miss feeling like I am the only person in the world but on the bright side I had that moment and not everyone can say that. I am so happy for everyone around me who is falling in love and finding that special someone to make them smile. Maybe I have someone out there or maybe I have the memories either way I win because it happened and I know it can happen again with the right person at the right time now if only I can stop the wrong person right time and right person wrong time thing that would be super!
I wonder if anyone else gets tired of having to be the strong one all the time. I wish from time to time that there was someone here to say its ok and put their arms around me and make all the junk go away for a little bit. I wish nightly for true love to find me and I know it will in time but to be honest I feel half the time like the thing I do the best is mess things up. But for now I will listen to the music and wait for the day I get to dance in the rain and lay in the bed of a truck and watch the stars cover the sky. Wouldn't it be cool to have someone just show up like in a movie and make everything that feels wrong become right. I think I have forgotten what its like to wake up to a full size person next to me at this point, I wonder if that means I will have to share my blanket and pillows at some point. Hmm maybe I should reconsider my thought process ha!!!…. On the other hand curling up with someone and falling asleep in their arms sounds as close to heaven as I can get here on earth.
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