When you meet someone and everything about them makes you feel alive its a gift. When he said I was beautiful I believed it for the first time in my life. I felt special when I was with him, the way he looked at me was incredible. His kisses made me crave more and more his touch made me feel electric. For a brief moment I was the luckiest girl in the world!! He could be my "one", could have been that is...... I have no idea why or how someone could walk away from something like that, I would have moved heaven and earth for him. No matter what once you feel that you truly want that person to be happy, truly happy with or without you. I can't even be mad that he is gone, it may be for now or it may be forever but I can't be mad. I am sad because I wanted to feel like that everyday of my life but they say the right person will never walk away, perhaps its a matter of timing and he will be back someday who knows. Life goes on and the memories are mine forever they will never change. I choose to take the good and leave the bad, it happened so that gives me hope it can happen again maybe this time for real. He maybe with someone else, if so I hope she is good to him and they are happy. I love love but I think love is not a fan of mine at this point. But oh when he looked at me and said I was beautiful, I believed it and all I can do now is hope that someone else thinks that to and I can feel like that again. I know it won't be the same because everyone is different but oh to get close to that would be wonderful. I know I am not the only one who feels like this and I am certainly not the only one who has ever gone though this, we all survive it and grow stronger from it but somedays its easier to remember the looks that can melt a heart and the touch that can grab your soul and make you feel alive in a world that is just living.
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When he is quiet he is probably busy and in some cases he is busy with someone else. It doesn't mean he doesn't think about you at all it just means he is busy. When he misses you he will let you know when he wants to see you he will make it happen. Don't fall into the trap of being at his beck and call though it's ok to be busy too. He could be trying to figure you out when he is quiet as well, who knows! If he is quiet give him space he may need it, when he is ready he will be back but remember that if he gets quiet he also possibly leaves the door open for someone else to walk through it too if he takes to long.
When she is quiet she is thinking, over thinking, scared, worried, hurt, needs a hug or maybe waiting for you to miss her. When she is quiet its ok to ask her whats wrong, surprise her with something special or just show a bit more effort. Don't just leave her alone because that is when she probably needs you the most. If you want her let her know you are there for her, don't make her wonder about how you feel. Ok we all know I am clearly bad at this dating thing so I thought I would switch it up and give all you single guys out there some hints how to make her fall for you!
1) Talk to her about more than just sex 2) Open doors for her 3) Look at her eyes not her boobs - eyes will tell you a lot more about her than her boobs ever will sorry guys! 4) Be proud of her not just in private but in public to 5) When its her special time of the month surprise her with whatever it is she craves even if it is just being with you she wants. 6) Take your time to learn about her before sex ( maybe its important to her to wait rushing could send the wrong signal to her ) 7) Hugs from behind work like magic 8) Hold her 9) When you go in for the first kiss remember it could be your last first kiss - make it awesome by brushing her hair out of her face or just get close to her for a second before you go for it. 10) Little things matter most gifts are great but a text, call, note, IM, email whatever means of communication you can think of that are available - say Hi or see how she is doing, take a pic of something that made you think of her when you are not with her let her know you miss her once in a while no matter how long you have been together I promise it can work and possibly add the spark back in if has gone away. I might very well be the worlds most impressively bad dater but I know what can get to a woman's heart fast and keep you in her mind! At some point in my life I may even find someone who wants me and only me but right now I am just not worried about it. One of my favorite things in the world is to watch people fall in love!!! Never stop trying to find new ways to make someone smile because a smile on your face makes a heart happy. Love on my fabu peeps lets get some people falling in love I love weddings and I want cake don't make me go buy one!! Life is crazy we are all busy. But if she opens herself up to you and bares her soul even though it scares the hell out of her please don't take it lightly. You may have no idea how hard it was for her to open up and say she cares because the second she says she cares you can hurt her. You may not know the hurt she has been through before but please understand this it is not easy for some people to open up and show someone who they are. If she is the girl who always has to be strong because being strong is the only option she has ever had when she says she wants you be rest assured that she means it and you are the only one for her. There are a lot of people who can be open but she may not be one of them. Her heart is one of the most precious things she has please be careful with it, it can break easily when other people touch it....
Somewhere there is someone who's touch can make me calm when life gets crazy. Someone who with just a look can make me smile. Someone who just feels like home when I am near him. I would love to find someone who isn't afraid to step in front of me to keep me safe if need be even when he knows I can handle myself. Someone who looks at me as if I am the only person in the room when he looks at me. Someone who will be able to kiss me and make the world melt away. Someone who I can make feel like he is the only person in the world for me. I want to find someone who knows that no matter what happens I will always always always come back to them and I will never give the part of me to anyone else that he has claimed as his. Yes I believe that somewhere out there is someone who wants me even when I am a hot mess or needing his arms around me. I want to find someone who can make me feel loved without him even having to say it to me. I know its possible because I have felt it, now that I know its possible I want it forever the trick is finding someone who wants that to
Sometimes the timing for someone to say something to someone else is when they are the most vulnerable, naked if you will. Totally stripped of everything that everyone else thinks they are and they at that moment are just themselves standing there open to the future waiting and hoping for someone to take their hand and start the journey with them. Standing there naked with your whole self exposed is a lot more intense that just your standard hey we came into the world this way naked, I am talking about the naked where someone could actually touch your soul if they wanted to. Being totally exposed and ready for the path to reveal itself to them. Its a scary learning process that we all must do once in a while. Walls are great to help keep the hurt away but sometimes we need to be totally human and let it down and let someone see us even if they don't want us in the end its still ok to do and learn from it. But if you do that and someone doesn't see it or isn't wanting it be ok with walking away to. Life is about lessons and sometimes they hurt, we can't make people feel anything they don't want to just like we can't force ourselves to feel something that is just not there either. Life is a beautiful journey that sometimes is a painful truth but the truth non the less. Enjoy the ride you only get
Some of the most terrifying things we can do is to tell someone how we feel and stand there for a moment hoping they feel the same way. In the time that you are just standing there some of us really want to just run away and refuse to feel anything ever again. Letting someone have the power to hurt you again is one of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make, do you take the chance let the wall come down enough to be open to the idea or do you keep it up forever and that way the only person who can ever hurt you is yourself. I know I have said a million times all you can do is try because regret hurts worse than not knowing but then again its always easier said than done which is also why people are in bad relationships all the time to, because its easier said that done to take a chance. So the huge question right now is do you take the wall down and tell someone how you feel or do you wait to see if they want you
Dating someone who has been cheated on is not the easiest thing in the world but its worth it if you are truly interested in them. You have to look past the hesitations and in some cases care enough to take down the wall they have built around their hearts to protect it from being hurt again. I get it that we are all busy but even just a quick text or message saying hi once a day is sometimes all they need to feel better about your intentions. If they are a long time past the cheating but still hesitate you can be guaranteed that they have a wall the size of china guarding their heart if it is hard to get close. Take your time to get to know them don't push, don't rush be there and never make her feel like she is just another option to you. Their heart is fragile so treat it like fine china you wouldn't play baseball with a china plate would you? A little caring a genuine attention is all they need to take the walls down and let you in
Boo hoo your single SO what lots of people survive it and maybe even enjoy being single. Its not a disease you can't catch divorce either actually what it is would be a surge of confidence and self worth a wake up call if you will. Since my divorce I can't help but love to talk to people who have gone through this. Colors seem brighter things taste different life seems better even when it sucks why because they know they have been to hell danced with the devil and made it out alive and now air is fresher and life is beautiful! I get a kick out of people who feel sorry for me that I am still single, in fact I have never in my life felt better about things. Yeah money gets tight and things happen when I wish I had someone to talk to and maybe even hold me when things get crazy but I make it out of it with my friends and family having my back the whole way!! I love my life and I can promise whoever is lucky enough to win my heart for the rest of our lives will not only get the best of me but he gets to build the rest of our lives with someone who will never stop doing the little things and someone who will never forget that relationships are a choice not a must have and as long as he remembers that too our lives will be our fairy tail ending lasting a lifetime and beyond. So drink it up, laugh loud, love hard and enjoy everyday and meet new people when you can because you never know who or what fate is going to throw in your path you just have to be awake enough to see it when it happens!!! Muah go out there and make the rest of your life the best of y
I am sure that I am not the only person to ever think that when you put yourself out there it is scary because that is when we can be hurt. Hope is such a double edged sword really if you think about it you can get your hopes up and then have it all come crashing down. I am trying really hard to just relax and let whatever will happen just happen but DANG!!!! All I want right now is to have someone show effort not hit and miss effort but real effort. I would love for someone to be at least active in texting me if nothing else. Maybe I just need to let it all go and come to the understanding that maybe its just not my time to be loved as much as I want it to happen maybe its just not my time. Waiting sucks but I know it will be worth it I love the little bursts of it I get but
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