Yes it is true I am way to blessed to be stressed about much. Life is good and its only getting better for me. I love watching people around me begin the journey of meeting new people and possibly even falling in love. Life is so unpredictable so all we can do is take it one day at a time even when it feels like several days attacked us at once. I find the positive in everything even when it is hard to find it. If its bad its a lesson if its good its a gift. Every night when I go to sleep I say a little prayer thanking the universe for all I have been given and when I wake up I am thankful for the new day filled with possibilities. Now that I am free to think on my own I really feel like I have become more spiritual but like with many things I do it on my own terms not by others standards. Never hesitate to question things that don't make sense and keep asking questions until it does make sense. For many things like love there is no perfect answer other than everything happens for a reason and we just need to hang in there to find out what the reason is. I know not everything has an answer necessarily but sometimes the answer is that there is no answer. Love is amazing, it makes people do and say things they would not normally have done or said. It makes us feel more alive that the day before when we find it and if we lose love it can be painful. Love is a wonderful part of life and it comes in many forms, not always romantic love. One of the most freeing yet painful things you can do with love is set it free. Sometimes you need to let go of it and take a step back to reset your views, you may never change how you feel or you could realize you were headed in a direction that was not the best. But never let the want for love drive you back into the arms of someone who hurt you before just to be with someone. Many people choose to stay in relationships or go back for many reasons some are the ultimate self sacrifice where you choose someone else over yourself, how ever that is a double edge sword because you can also be teac
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*** Guest Blogger Amanda
The chips have fallen... 1. NEVER IGNORE SOMEONE IF YOU KNOW THEY CARE ABOUT YOU..YOU ARE TELLING THEM THAT YOU DON'T GIVE A RIP. 2.If you have someone in your life and you know they have feelings for you and you are undecided as to whether you do, do not keep sleeping with them or take a three week break and then go back at it again and be the one instigating it, and then ignore them for 3 days while you like all the other women's photos and comments on facebook. 3. When the chips have fallen do not be surprized if she/he can no longer be your friend as now you have shown her/him how you will treat her/him regardless if you are a friend or lover, you don't deserve her/him in any way shape or form. While it will hurt for a while to heal your heart again, be brave and get out there, meet new people and know that it will be alright!! I so wish I could hug a friend tonight!! I'm sending you love and kindness!! A lot of people think I am hard to handle when in fact I just have a low tolerance for BS.. There are a few things that can be done to be able to get me to do what you want but I must warn you much like snowflakes no one is the same. So perhaps instead of saying what can be done I should say what NOT to do instead.
1) Tell me what to do 2) Call me pet names when we first start talking 3) Insist we are in a relationship after a 2 min conversation 4) Meet me and tell me you want to move in 5) Start talking about marriage during a first conversation 6) Insist on meeting my kids 7) Be shady 8) Tell me how to run my life 9) Insult me thinking I am weak 10) For all other questions refer to #1 Please keep in mind that this is a baseline for reference and I again have a low tolerance for any shenanigans at all. I am looking for someone who will compliment my life and not complicate it. If you bring drama to the table we can be friends but thats it. If you have problems I will help you fix them but please don't expect me to get involved with them. I am a self proclaimed runner with tornado tendencies aka if you push to hard I run if there are things that make me feel uncomfortable I fight back. Be nice to me and approach me slowly much like a wild animal. Say nice things and mean it and please don't be creepy about it either. If I say back off respect it. If I text you its because I miss you if I don't could be because I am waiting for you to miss me or maybe I just don't like you :) Oh and don't call me babe or baby unless Thank you to Tenacityradio.com and everyone who has made this show possible it would not still be here if it weren't for all of you!!!! In the next few days will be announcing some events to help celebrate the show and the future of it as well!!! If you have any requests for events or locations for us to visit let me know!! The show will be growing and changing very very soon so keep your eyes on us and tell your friends that Cool Chick Radio and Tenacityradio.
** Guest blogger alert - Thank you Amanda!!
Trust..without it you have nothing!! Love people for who they are! Trusting someone leaves you open to hurt even if they are just a friend. If you don't try you will never know though!! (and if my friend that doesn't have a profile is reading this..texting is not trying!! Inside joke from a few weeks ago! lol) Trust should be earned not handed out. If someone has a pattern of hurting you, don't subject yourself to more hurt. You can only control you and trust who you feel is worthy of your trust. Everybody needs friends, but there are so many different levels of friends. There are those who have always always been there for you. There are those who pass through and we learn lessons from and then there are those who we are there for and never get anything in return. Regardless love people for who they are and be the friend you would always want in your life because the friends that are there for you and stay are the ones you should trust. Sometimes it is really confusing and the only answer is to keep going and just to be you. The people who are supposed to be in your life will show up and stay. Trust your instincts because they are usually right. Have no expectations unless you are in a relationship with that person. You have to communicate them!! Assuming someone knows is never good!! Even with your friends, have no expectations because expectations can be crossed without even expressing to the other person what your expectations were because you didn't know you had them. Live each day to the fullest, Love a lot but bring your brain with you! Sometimes you need to run the other way and sometimes you need to be there to see what happens. All you can do is be an example of what you are looking for. I may not be the prettiest girl in the world or have the best body, I may not have the most money, largest house or best wardrobe. I may not drive the best car or look perfect all the time. But what I am is kind and caring. I try my hardest all the time. I am happy and will make you smile even if I can't make myself smile some days. I love with all my heart and I am loyal to a fault in most cases. I find the good in everything and I hate to fight but I am willing to stand up for myself and others when it's needed. I adore my children and I love what I do for work too. Some day maybe I can find someone who will look at me and see the whole person not just whats on the outside but until that day I am still me and I am great with that. I am stronger now than I have been in years and I cherish everyday and everyone I know. I view things as lessons and take something good from everything I do. No one can stop me from living a wonderful life and I am on this amazing journey that someday I hope to find someone to join me on as well. Until the day that someone says they want me forever I will treat each moment as a gift and look forward to the path being made a little more clear to me everyday. Someday I hope to find a best friend, lover and all around supportive partner for life. Someone who will hold me everyday despite whats going on and someone who will look at me and make time stand still again. Yes the little things matter most and they stick with people longer than gifts can ( I am not opposed to someone trying to sway that opinion though lol). Some who can make me feel like the most beautiful person in the world with a look and make me feel loved with a touch. No matter what the sun comes up and sets and the stars shine bright just like it would any other day but if I had someone to share it with it would be a littl
**** Guest blogger alert!!! Thank you to AI'm the type of person that likes the good morning and good night texts and send them to the people I care about. I don't like to be put on the back burning and if I tell you that I love you in any form of the meaning it means that you are a priority and that I care about you and will do my best to help you or be there for you in any way that I can.
The one thing I have a really hard time with is when you observe someone I love ignoring me. By that I mean that I have called, emailed or texted you and you have not responded in a timely manner..no not right away..that's just a silly expectation..just let me know you are busy and will get to it later or actually get to it later and then I won't feel ignored..I think most people are this way. If you can take time to respond to trivial stuff on Facebook and are seen online a lot and yet did not have time to shoot back a text..what is that saying? My mind always slips into thinking the worst because that is how I'm wired..it means to me that I am not important enough. I'm learning that my persistance also is annoying and frustrating to some people..learning to not go after what I was in some cases is a hard lesson. If people want me in their life they will make time and ask me to be. So in the mean time I resort back to rowing my own boat and being the best me possible. Trying to not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess and just breath and have faith that everything will work out for the best. Life is full of lessons..Send love and kindness to the ones you love!! Dear past I want to thank you for all you have taught me, even when the lessons were a little over the top and sometimes had to be repeated until I really got it. I have learned that not everyone is in it for good reasons and they will hurt you on purpose. I have learned that sometimes when people say they will never hurt you they mean unless someone else comes along. I have learned to take a step back and breathe when things get crazy. I have been taught how to be quiet when being yelled at then when and if the moment calls for it defend yourself and others. People can say whatever they want about me I know what the truth is and that can't be taken away from me. I have been shown that lies come in all shapes and sizes and you sometimes can not see it coming. I have been taught that good things come to those who get off their butt and work for it. Now for the fun part, Hey future I am SO ready for you!!! I am ready for love, real love. I am already happy but I would love to find the missing piece to my journey if it is in the cards for this lifetime for me. I am willing to take it day by day and I will not rush into things or take life to seriously. I am in the best place I have ever been and I am so ready to take on the world and change lives as much as I can. I will be open to those who want to be my friend and I am hopeful that true loves kiss will someday find its way to me and stay forever. I will never stop being a hopeless romantic ever because love it beautiful and magic all in itself an I believe
I have licked my wounds and healed my battle scars from the past. Why is it that I am happy for other people when they find love but yet one can not let me go. I do not want to go back to where I came from I love where I am headed. I wish him the best now please just let me go, stop trying to hurt me because you can't, stop talking about me because you have nothing to say. Just leave me alone, I have done nothing to you please just leave me alone, the relationship has been over for a long time and you have moved on please just leave me alone. I am moving on with my life and you are not part of it, get used to it. Your control is gone and you can't run my life anymore. The things that are being said are false and they need to stop because it is hurting other people. Please just leave me alone. I can and will love who I want to when I want to I am sorry if you can not come to terms with that. I can and will be happier and more myself now that I am away from you. Calling me to tell me how much you hate me only makes you look dumb, please just let me go. I refuse to fight however, if I am backed into a corner I will not hesitate to push back. My head is held high and I am happy with my life and I am excited for my future and whatever else is in store. For someone who says he is happy why won't you just go away. So quickly things are forgotten from the past that have been done to me, a lesser person may have been far worse than me. I am tired of the lies, I was tired of the cheating, I am over the mean things said to me all the time, I am beyond the insults and most of all I let go of the hurt that was put upon me the day you left me at the hospital with our newborn son and you told me to find my own ride home. I did it I fixed it I made it better, yes I have an amazing support system and I would be lost with out them but never once have I thought about going back.... ever. I am free I have let it go, you can't hurt me anymore.... I only hope that someone who is reading this can find the strength to do what needs to be done to be free as well, its an amazing adventure called life that is waiting for you and once you come to the point where you can feel the sun on your face and truly hear things and see them in a different way that
Maybe when I met him it was a dream. It was a random chance meeting anyhow. Not even seeming real to meet someone like him when I did, how I did.. I didn't mean to fall for him as hard as I did. I didn't mean to care that much. The way he looked at me stopped time and there was never anyone around when he was by me. Even in a crowded place there was no one else. When he touched me he reached deeper than just skin, he could touch me , the real me. When he is away from me I feel like a piece is missing and not knowing if he feels the same is harder than I care for too. I fell for him, the real him for who he is now and I don't know if he will ever know it. I can move on with my life but the questions will haunt me for a while. I need to remain open to be able to find the rest of the path I need to travel down and keep tackling life's lessons when they come knocking. If someone else gets to lay in his arms I hope she is good to him and knows that he is amazing. I pray that he is happy even if it is not with me because when you love someone that much you need to trust that if it is right they will come back if not they are a beautiful memory to cherish in the end. But maybe just maybe it was a dream how we met, unplanned and totally random but oh so right at the same time.
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