Maybe she doesn't always want to make the first move. Maybe she is tired of having to be in control of her life that she wants someone who wants to be part of hers in the alpha role. She runs multiple businesses, is a full time mom, has a house and animals to take care of, always having to make decisions, maybe she wants to find someone willing to take over a little bit, not the kids because they have a dad, not the business or house she has that covered but she wants to find someone who is strong enough to dominate her a little. Someone who will support her and her dreams as much as she will have his back in everything but when the lights go out he needs to run the show so she can let her mind relax a little. Someone who will be strong enough to say be with me and only me forget anyone else. Someone who will hold her hand when she is nervous and hug her when she needs it most but can't say it. Maybe she is tired of being in control all the time and she wants to find someone strong enough for her to lose control to a little bit. He needs to be gentle yet strong, intelligent and well spoken to be able to talk about anything and everything all at the same time and someone who is willing to tell her to knock it off when she gets a little crazy. Someone who can call her the one name that makes her melt when he says it. What she needs is the one person who can make her crazy life balanced at the end
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From where I stand it seems like people who love drama and love to cause chaos are either bored or ugly. The ugly can be on the inside and sometimes hard to recognize but its apparent once you spend some time with them. The most outwardly beautiful person can have an ugly heart just the same as the most unattractive person can have the most beautiful soul you have ever seen. Insecure people cause problems with other people because they are jealous of something. It is always better to rise about the name calling that people like to do, once you know your worth it is a ton easier. Don't be baited into petty games that people like to play at all, its time consuming and I am pretty sure if you are like me you have better things to do than argue with people who are idiots. If you are bored try nailing jello to a tree and leave
Take a risk and chance the fall or play it safe and protect your heart - huge questions we all face from time to time. Do we tell someone how we feel or wait for the perfect time to express ourselves? What if the time is now and we don't know it because we are waiting for the right moment? What if the person who could be great for us is right there but we are to afraid to say something? How many times will people say I wish I said something before we do how many times will you see the person you desire with someone else before you step up to the plate and say something. Maybe just maybe there is a chance they are waiting for you too! I say life is short and the pain of regret is always more painful than knowing the truth in the end. Good bad or otherwise the truth sets us free and then we have comfort with knowledge that we tried it, sometimes it will work and sometimes it will be an epic fail. Life is to short to wonder what if - I say take a chance when the chance is right there!!! Playing it safe can cause heartache because you could have said something that could have made all the difference in the world to som
The ever obvious question when it comes to dating do we wait for the right person to just come along or do we actively seek them? I have talked to so many people and everyone has varying opinions on this matter. To me I think that when the time is right he will be there and never leave. I wonder from day to day if there is something I am doing to keep him at bay or is he waiting for me to say something to him? On those days where life is crazy and I could really use a hug from someone who can melt away my stress and make it ok even for a minute is when I wish someone was here. But then I get past it by myself and I am reminded that I am strong and I can do this on my own. The thing is that I really don't want to have to do it all myself anymore. Being single is great and I am not saying that I am desperate in anyway at all nor am I trying to hard or anxious for someone to put a ring on it but it would be great to have that person to talk to and then curl up with at night while falling asleep with my head on his chest with his arms around me. Feeling wanted by someone who genuinely wants to be with me would be a wonderful feeling but its also something that just can't be faked either. My choice is to be open to fate putting the right person in my life at the right time.
The truth is that no woman ever wakes up in the morning and says gee I hope no one tries to sweep me off my feet today.. The reality is society today is sadly tainted by a bunch of crap and lies and very little truth. People will say and do what ever it takes to get what they want and when they get it everything become disposable. Cars, jobs, clothing, relationships are all subject to people thinking that what they thought they wanted just isn't doing it for them anymore. Long gone are the days of work for what you truly want and then take care of it hence the increase in cheating, job jumping and leases instead of buying. We have become a disposable society instead of stay and try and fix it and then and only then if it can't be fixed then get something new. In relationships there are so many times when it is not perfect we just turn to someone else sometimes without ending the relationship we are in already. People get hurt drama is caused and then chaos enters life, why not keep it simple and remember if its not broke don't fix it. No one is perfect but so many times I see people thinking that the grass is greener on the other side to bad most the time its just because it is fertilized with crap. It breaks my heart when someone great is right in front of someone and yet they choose to go after someone who is much more interested in drama and chaos than building something that could be amazing long term. To each their own I guess but this girl will wait for the person who wants clarity versus confusion and is willing to and wanting to love me and only me for the rest of our lives, I refuse to play take a number with anyone ever again... Dear No One your work is cut out for you but it is not that hard to show me you are different and that you mean it just show up and be yourself to me that is more than enough for the be
Once upon a time there was a woman who had been sleeping with he eyes wide open until one day she woke up and saw the world and all the possibilities it had to offer. She could feel happy and sad, joy, love and heartbreak. All of these things called feelings were new to her because she was asleep for so long she had forgotten how to feel anything. Now there are people who judge her and they way she is and the things she does however they know her name not her real story. She had been to hell and back and wants nothing more than to never go there again. Longing to be loved in a way she had never felt before and searching for someone who wanted to make her feel that way has become a task she no longer wants to think about. Some where out there is someone who may look like a normal person but to her will become her king. Someone who will dance with her in the rain, give her a teddy bear to make her smile and never give up trying to find new ways to make her smile because she will never stop tr
I am on a mancation until further notice! I will not be putting time and or effort towards those who have not shown effort towards me. I am tired of the games people like to play and its exhausting to be honest. I have better more productive things to focus my energy on that will show me results. Business is something I understand to me a relationship is like business too. The more effort you put into it the better the result however if you are great at the beginning but fail to keep the effort going even if it is on a lesser level it fizzles out and you have no progress and no results and that is when other businesses look appealing to you as well. I would adore finding someone who will support me as much as I do him and someone who will never stop with the effort because NO ONE is cheat proof in business or personal life I don't care how awesome you think you are you stop trying they start looking. There are some people though who will never be satisfied with what they have they will always want the next best thing thinking it is better than the last. To bad there are ups and downs to everything because nothing is perfect. Just keep that in mind as I am on my mancation waiting the arrival of someone who will
I wanted to go on the record and say that I am not jaded when it comes to love, I am however sad that men and women think its ok to act and treat others with little to no respect. We toss around the word love to get what we want hoping that the person believes it long enough for it to work, until you meet someone who wants you to God forbid prove it!! Please don't say that word to anyone unless you can back it up, sure you can love your friends or a desert but if you mean it as more than that don't say it until you are ready to prove it to someone. Don't send nasty pics or expect them sent to you just to get off on, try romancing the mind for once. And if you are married or in a relationship and you bring someone else into it DON'T DO IT!!!!! You are hurting innocent people and karma will be back to say hello so if you are willing to deal with the karma bus making a stop at your door go for it if not may I suggest ending what you are in before starting something new. And yes I have had a ton of married men hit on me and it makes me mad because their reasoning behind it is that they are bored or currently unhappy which tells me they view me as nothing more than a toy not a partner. To be perfectly honest the people who have gotten to me spent time getting to know the real me before anything else happened. I have tried the FWB a few times and it worked for the time being until you find one that you would be happy to have more than that with and they don't feel the same then it sucks and disappointments happen again no ones fault just being human is the only crime and allowing feelings to get into it. I am worried that with SO many guys talking so disrespectfully to me that maybe a lot of women get to a certain point or age in their life and they are willing to accept it just to have someone in their life.. that is even more sad to me!!! I am willing to wait for the person who will know exactly how to get to me as fast as he wants to, he will contain the magic I truly desire and I am not willing to drop everything and go running for anyone who demands things from me but will not do simple things I ask in return. So I am not jaded just disappointed and ready more than ever to wait however long it takes.
This weekend has caused me to really reevaluate why it is that I even want to attempt to have someone in my life. This whole dating thing just seems to be a joke anymore and I am failing to see the punchline. It makes me sad when in this weekend alone I have been told to make someone dinner, that I am someones FWB, I have had offers of dick pics and my new personal fav a butt hole pic ( still not sure what that was about ) I have been tore into by someone on a dating site that accused me of thinking I am all that ( which I am not but whatever - still awesome ) I have been told someone cares about me SO much and yet he is all over Facebook with someone else, I have had people get pissed at me for me not dropping everything and driving to them for sex........ Yep welcome to my world! I have officially cut off everyone who disrespects me I mean really guys if you want to act like this right now I can only imagine the can o douche you will be in years to come. So yes I give up, white flag and I hold fast to the idea that sometime somewhere someone will see me and think hey she seems pretty cool and actually try to get and keep my attention in a positive way. So guys please take it from me when I say stop with the demands and dirty pics we want to see who you are for real, if dirty pics and demands are all you have then that is pretty sad and you should work on yourself seriously because no relationship will last based on that. At some point an actual conversation and listening will have to happen if you can't handle that find a wife in Japan or just be single. Oh and guys... if you can't handle not being a douche for longer than 5 mins when you talk to someone please oh please do the world a favor and get fixed - NO one wants to reproduce another gerner
I am sitting here going over things in my head wondering if I have ever really been in love with someone.... I thought I was at a few points in my life but the cruel hard facts are that they all leave. Real love should stick around right? It shouldn't hurt or make you question yourself should it? Heart break and disappointments are all that is left in my path - I feel like a love tornado just leaving a path of destruction in my wake. Is it possible for someone as my ex so tactfully put it be screwable but not lovable? Perhaps this is my demon to battle forever. Sure people will like me for a bit but what makes me not enough, I am not bad looking I take care of myself physically, I work hard I am a great mom and friend, I have goals for my life and I would move heaven and earth for anyone I care about and yet still not enough for anyone to stay... Why??? The right person will come along, blah blah blah blah I have heard it all. Yes I push people away when they get to close, why should I let them in if they will just leave anyhow... Maybe someday someone will see through my walls to the real me and be patient enough to not let me push them when I am scared. Being alone doesn't scare me as much as the thought of heartbreak does. Risk vs. Reward is only valid when the risk
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