I am quickly beginning to believe that a lot of heart break begins with mixed signals being sent. I see it all the time, someone says they are into another person and yet there is no effort being made to show them anything. We need to remember not everyone in the world can read your mind and most of all if you like someone show them some how. If you are wanting to be with someone then by all means talk to them somehow. You don't have to change who you are just to be with someone but you do have to be open to them in someway shape or form. I get it we are all busy and I am not saying you have to see the person of interest everyday or in some cases even talk to them everyday but you do need to show sincere effort to get and keep their attention. With technology being the way it is communication is much easier than running around the house with a phone attached to a long cord or trying to find a pay phone to call someone. We can text, IM, message, email, call, voicemail etc… you get my point. The truth is if someone is really into you they will find a way to talk to you somehow and not let weeks go by with out anything. If you do let weeks go by you are letting someone else have a chance to come into the spot that you want, if you are ok with that let it ride if not SAY SOMETHING! I love it how people always say they are to busy and yet every time you see them they have their smart phone in their hand… Truth is if thats they way it is and they haven't said anything to you in a few days they are just not that into you and you need to pack up your crayons and move it on down the road!!!
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I see a lot of people looking for someone to spend the night with and I have decided that I will wait for the person I can't wait to wake up next to instead. Going to bed with someone is easy the hard part is finding someone you want to see in the morning and not run out the door ( unless you have to work then its different ). I want to find someone who I can curl up with every night and look forward to seeing in the morning. I would adore the person who when they kids are not around would curl up with me and watch movies and just talk about everything and nothing all at the same time all day long. So yes I will wait for the person who makes me excited to sleep because I know I get to see their smiling face in the morning. Someone who I can share morning coffee with or even better someone who will pull me close and just lay there with me even if there is not a word spoken. The person who can make me not want to sleep because I am afraid that it's all a dream and when I wake up in the morning will no longer be there is someone who has spoken to my soul, when that person is near time stands still and everything is right in the world, time has no meaning and love is in every glance and passion in every touch, that is worth waiting for as long as it takes even if it takes forever…………
We have all experienced a visit from the little green monster named jealousy. It can show up in the oddest situations and it can sometimes help but many times hurt us. I have seen relationships be destroyed from being jealous for reasons that are in the other persons mind only. If someone is wanting to be with you and yet they are talking to other people please let me reassure you that not everyone gets naked during a conversation with someone else. Talking to people should be viewed at as a good thing as long as there are boundaries established if a relationship is present. On the flip side if you have not been forward with someone and expressed interest in them only you can't get upset with the person who is talking to other people. Be open and honest with your person of interest and you may be surprised what happens. Someone had said to me that he thought I would never want him because I was talking to so many people, the truth was yes I was talking to people but they were my friends and the only person I wanted was him because no one else compared but by the time he told me that his mind was made up that he would not be enough. One thing is for sure I will continue to have friendships with other men however when I am with someone I am dedicated to that person only, I just think jealousy and insecurities block many things that can be a wonderful thing and that doesn't pertain just to love it can be business/ work related as well. Think about the times when you wanted to try something but you hesitated because you didn't follow your gut. We can't change things in the past but we can learn from it and move forward with the knowledge that even though things look one way don't judge a book by its cover you may be surprised what the pages
Life gets crazy and we all get caught up in it from time to time, thats when life begins to pass us by. I have found that the beauty of life shows itself when you take a few minutes and step back. Take a deep breath and remember why you are doing what you do in the first place, maybe your goals are the same or perhaps they have changed and much like the wind you can change directions to meet your goals at that point. We need to remind ourselves its ok to take a moment to ourselves once in a while and its ok to be selfish for a moment or two. I have found that when you are struggling to find answers sometimes the best thing you can do it to take a moment and quiet your mind. If its love that can always be a bit more complex to figure out but the answers are there waiting to be found. Work, life, love, family - its all part of the beauty of life and each day we are here is a gift and I think if we treat it more like a gift than just expecting it to happen perhaps things will become a bit more precious and important to everyday life. Things we take for granted may have new meaning to us if you take a step back and
It is said that when you meet the right person you just know…. Well I am sure that many people who have gotten married and divorced didn't go into it thinking gee I hope this is over soon. What if you think you know but you turn out to be wrong or what if you meet someone and you feel like they are "the one" and they don't agree then what? Does it make you a goof ball, hopeless romantic, desperate or is it the right person at the wrong time or is it the wrong person at the right time? I love it when my mind gets going and starts to question things. So really what do you do at that point? Do you lick your wounds and move on do you start collecting things or become the crazy animal person?? Really seriously what if your "the one" is thinking someone else is the one??? How do people move past that? Do you always harbor secret love for that person? Is it love or did they give you something you needed at that time? Really what is it?? What the hell is love anyhow???
Dear Love,
I have waited for you for a long time, you have briefly shown me that you exist and yet you continue to go away. I am actually to a point where I am losing faith that you will ever visit me and stay forever. I have to be ok with that if that is my destiny. I have spent countless hours wishing for you to come to me but it seems like more and more perhaps I have viewed it all wrong from the start. I see people in love all the time and I am so truly excited for them and I love to see how happy they are. I am starting to just be at a point where I am able to wish everyone the best that life can offer them including people that I hold closest to my heart. There are times when I know that I am putting in more effort to things than I should and I am learning to step back and wait. I can't make anyone want to see me, talk to me or most of all I can't make anyone love me so its my job to love me enough to wait for the right person if they exist and trust the journey I am on to take me to where I need to be. It is very hard for me to not push everyone away from me and just be alone for a while to focus on family, work and home but I also know that hiding from the world will do no good either. So I will keep my head up my heart guarded but open and keep going forward with life because life is just to beautiful to not enjoy every moment of. I am reminded from time to time that we are never guaranteed a tomorrow but we have right now to find the magic in every moment that we are given. My dear love you may elude me forever or you may find me tomorrow until then I hope you are having as much fun as I am living life to the fullest!! |
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