I believe that my kids have been through enough in their lives already and they do not need any more heart break - I get it that nothing is a guarantee in life but I also think that when a relationship is brand new you need that time alone to figure it out and then slowly add children into the mix. Kids grow up and move on with their lives and when they do it would be nice to know that you had a relationship that was growing before the kids are brought into it and once they are gone it should make love that much better knowing you have a partner for life.
Now the scary part - what if my kids do not like him or what if he doesn't like them? I couldn't imagine that I would ever be with someone who wouldn't love my kids just as I would imagine I would adore his children if he has them too. But to be honest this part scares the bejesus out of me!!! Kids are amazing and they see things we as adults do not see which is why I promised my kids that when it comes time for them to meet someone if they do not like him I would end it. I come as a package deal - all of us or none of us. I know not everyone feels that way but this is how I feel and its not fair to them for me to be caught up in a shiny new relationship and forget about them so please understand this - I will do my absolute best to make you feel incredibly wanted and loved as long as you are patient with me and know that if I mention meeting my kids for me that is HUGE so please do not take it lightly.